What is the best way to end a relationship with someone who has future plans with you?

Don’t. I’m on the other end — I did. I regret everything. I miss her. I should’ve realized her plans were our plans and they would’ve been amazing. Now I’m in a timeline where I’m alone with no one. She doesn’t care if I exist or not. It’s horrible. Please… remember why you fell in love with that person and why you are still together. Then imagine life without them and realize those fake happy thoughts? The ones where you’re imagining life without them? Yeah, get that shit out of your head. It’s not real. You’re not going to be happier. The grass is greener where you water it.

Do you see where I’m going with this? Stop your bullshit. Please stop it. I wish someone said that to me. Love that fucking woman or man you are with — fucking love them with all your heart. They ain’t easy to find.

Guess what? She’s now with someone else. Living our dreams together. Living all the dreams she had with me with him. She’s making jokes with him. She’s cooking him dinner. She’s watching all of HER and OUR favorite shows with him. She’s having sex with him. She’s planning romantic weekend getaways with him. Yup, I want to die. I haven’t seen her since our divorce — but I know if I saw her with someone else, I’d probably just realize why I have to end my life. Because I’m stupidly selfish, possessive, and I contemplated your stupid thoughts once too.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

I was awful to her in the end — I can’t explain why — but to the point where she cannot possibly forgive me or give me another chance. Her way of forgiveness is simply pretending or acknowledging that I never existed. And I did that to her. I did that to me. I did that to us. None of it was her fault.

I see all sorts of older couples — have their businesses together — running shit and planning on retirement. I had those plans with her. Guess what I have now? Major depression. Extreme anxiety. Suicidal thoughts. No will to live. No dreams. No ambition. No desire to even wake up tomorrow. A great big fear of being alone — I was there! — as she said, “You had it all.” She was never wrong. She loved me and wanted it to work. But I was immature and didn’t communicate my wants, needs, and expectations better and encourage her to share hers.

DO NOT HURT YOUR PERSON. PLEASE. SEE YOUR LIFE WITH THEM OR STOP WASTING TIME.

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